STOP OBSESSIVELY CHECKING TINDER
| AUGUST 14, 2019 ◊ KASSI UNDERWOOD
Self-esteem and emotional security don’t come from your partners or relationships. So you can stop waiting by the phone and obsessively checking your Tinder messages and waiting for their attention and affections and approval and acceptance—because even if you get it, you’ll be satisfied for maybe 10 minutes before you start questing for more of the same.
Maybe it wasn’t the right kind of attention. Or he should have sent a different text message, then maybe I’d be satisfied. She isn’t quite as amazing as I thought.
Self-esteem actually comes from who you are being: your true, wild, peaceful (even if you’re crying), powerful (even with tears streaming down your face!) self.
Emotional security comes from the Universe, your cosmic communication, your humble meditation, your quiet time with the One. Paradoxically, once you’re filled up from within, you will you feel satisfied with the calls, texts, attention, approval, etc—or you’ll have the self esteem to say no thank you.
The source of these things will feel never-ending and abundant once you are tapped in.
One of the most revolutionary days of my life was when I understood the process to reaching this incredible place within myself: to create my own self-esteem and emotional security, which changed my whole world. (When Mike and I first started dating, he said: “Nothing ever bothers you!” Best compliment I ever received.
Photo: Mike. In which I pose in all my hot pink holiness in the hot pink lights of Edinburgh.